Court Sense

I am on a somewhat self-imposed break from youth sports coaching. I say “somewhat self-imposed” because had I caused any more fifth grade girls to cry a few years ago, it probably would be simply imposed. Now I do what coaches and refs love the most, I coach from the bleachers.

As I brought my unique mix of expertise and challenge to my third grader’s basketball game a few weeks ago, I was consistently encouraged toward restraint by my wife. With one loud yet astute observation, the ref shot me a glance that could have cut steel and suggested someone would need to restrain him, if I didn’t restrain myself.

Among my many opportunities for New Year’s resolutions, I decided that if I were to choose to yell at games going forward, it could only be to find something meritorious to shout, even if the shot or pass didn’t go our way. While some of my cheers felt a little forced, not only did I prevent more near-ejection experiences and solicit a few proud smiles from the girls, but I also actually enjoyed the game so much more.

As I gave some high fives to the girls (even though they lost), I couldn’t help but wonder where else in life, leadership, and faith, am I only trying to correct mistakes versus acknowledging the effort, growth, and potential also present within those errors? In matters of sports and faith, it’s never the case that if one can’t do it perfectly, one should just remain on the bench. With others and also with myself, how do I create space on the court for mistakes to become opportunities for excellence? Do I persecute for missteps or do I coach for what’s the next best step? If the Lord doesn’t want me to dwell in shame for my sins but grow from them, how do I model the same patience and accompaniment in all the roles I play as a player, coach, and cheering section?

With great pride in my growth, I confidently informed my wife that perhaps it was time to step back on the field and give coaching another chance. Tricia’s reminded me that one game doesn’t make a season and I had a lot more practice to do. Prayers for your practice this week!